Having the wrong partner in your relationship is not something to be taken lightly. It can break your heart, and worse, it can ruin your life, future, and even the people who rely on you. I’ve coached couples professionals for almost twenty years and love helping singles, dating or courting couples. In this post, you will learn some of the “divine clues” that can guide women in identifying the right man for them. Hope you will enjoy it!
1. He doesn’t Corrupt Your Character
Remember God said to Adam “cultivate Eve” not to corrupt your wife. When those closest to you start saying things like “you changed” or “you’re not the same.” These a signs that the man you’re with is a bad influence over your life.
2. He Makes Sacrifices
If you keep sacrificing your “last Rolo” this is a sign that he doesn’t love you. If a man truly loves you, he will also make sacrifices for you. It may not be a divine sacrifice like what God did, but it can be sacrificing his own ambition, material possessions, his last Rolo and other important stuff. King Solomon was willing to forsake his throne for Mrs Solmon. I call this the law of pursuit… Don’t miss this one!
3. He Preachers What He Practices
Even though he speaks the words of God, if he doesn’t practice them, you can conclude that he’s only a great pretender and not really the guy sent to you by Heaven. Words are futile without actions, correct? So if he says you are the most important thing in his life but does not subscribe to that in-action he does not love you! If you are an option, you have your divine sign.
4. He Doesn’t Isolate You
When he shuts you off from anyone outside of the partnership, it means he is obsessed with controlling you. An abusive partner uses isolation tactics, to isolate you from your support networks. Such as your mother, siblings, friends, Church. Hear this very carefully; isolation is an early sign of abuse. Not only do you have a right to “certain” relationships and friendships, but to your individuality.
5. He Does Not Criticise You
Habitual criticism can corrode the very foundation of your relationship and that’s not an overstatement! Criticism is so critical, it is one of the top predictors of divorce and spells disaster for the non-married. That said, no one expects one to just roll over and accept all of your partner’s less-than-desirable qualities. Inevitably, you’re going to have complaints. But how you choose to communicate these grievances to your partner is what matters. I teach communication extensively in my in coaching. If he uses hurtful words and insensitive and mindless actions during moments of conflict, disagreements, you have a “red flag” you just cannot ignore!
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